08.20.08
“It seems to me that people…”
“It seems to me that people have vast potential. Most people can do extraordinary things if they have the confidence or take the risks. Yet most people don’t. They sit in front of the telly and treat life as if it goes on forever.”
- Philip Adams
How true! As a teacher, perhaps I am trained to appreciate potential differently from non-teachers. I’m not entirely sure about that, but I do know that I see vast amounts of potential in my students, as well as my friends and family all of the time. It is wonderfully inspiring to see so much potential and fascinates me on a daily basis just how talented, creative, and passionate people can be, but what exasperates me to no end is that so much of this potential is untapped.
This quote definitely hits the nail on the head and addresses that confidence is often the missing factor. (And, I think that I especially liked this quote because it is also quite profound in stating that no one builds confidence by watching television…a big pet peeve of mine.)
For me, this blog has been a risk. I had no idea exactly what I was doing when I started it nearly a month ago. To be honest, I’m not even sure where the confidence to do it came from. Writing has always been something that came somewhat easily to me and when I see others who struggle with it, I want to help. I love to share what I write and the idea of writing professionally has always been a goal that I would like to achieve “someday.” But, as the quote reminds us, life does not go on forever. One day, you just have to decide that it is your “someday.” You have to have the confidence to make it happen.
Submitting my work for publication is a risk and requires tons and tons of confidence. But, the magic of it all is that once you get going, once you find out how to believe in yourself, the confidence builds. If you focus on what you want your outcome to be and remind yourself of it over and over, you can make anything happen.
As with anything in life, the key to remember is that there has to be a balance. The apprehension, the nervousness, and the uncertainty about what you are willing to risk or venture are all necessary and shouldn’t be lost or overshadowed by too much confidence. Those feelings of humility and modesty are what make us stay on track and stay focused on what is truly important to us. If we don’t have some fear, some rejection, or some disappointment along our journeys, then the we won’t really appreciate our destination when we reach our potential. People who are too sure of themselves, arrogant, or cocky may become well known and may have many accomplishments to their name, but they are not the people who we would consider extraordinary. Be extraordinary.
Choose to do something today that feels risky, but is important. Come back and share your story. I believe in you.
~Melissa
08.15.08
“Experience is what you get…”
Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want.
– Dan Stanford
Got that? I know that you may be very busy wallowing in your own self-pity or reliving that disappointment over and over again in your mind, and in your heart (and I am certainly talking to myself on this one as well), but there is no reason to. Stop right now!
Even though you didn’t get what you wanted, you got SOMETHING. Granted, it may not seem like very much, you may want to toss it out of the window (figuratively), and you would gladly give it away to the first person who would take it (literally), but it’s yours. Like it or not.
Every broken heart, closed door, missed opportunity, disappointing news, application denied, offer rejected, broken promise, and so on that we encounter in our lives is there for a reason. Each of these heartaches is a chance to learn, to build character, to grow as a person, and to heal. Though extremely painful, they are each equally as important as the good things, and actually help to make us appreciate the good things even more. Focus on those good things! Find the good things in your life and focus on all that you have, even if it is not what you want. I know that it is hard (believe me, I know it is hard!), but it is the only way. If you are so focused on the “what you wanted” you may miss out on new opportunities you could create, or what else may come your way on its own.
A recent situation that helped me to somewhat frame a (much larger, much more difficult, and very painful) current disappointment came from something that happened a few years ago. I had made a custom piece of jewelry and it came out really great! I was so excited with how perfect the bracelet was – exactly what the customer ordered – and wanted them to see it right away, that I sent it to them before I took a photo of it for my portfolio. It was a really beautiful bracelet and I just could never recreate it exactly, though I certainly tried. I was so disappointed with myself for having forgotten to take the picture. Though I didn’t have the picture (what I wanted), I gained the “experience” of learning from my mistake and never making the same mistake again. I take pictures of everything I make now, even the pieces that I don’t like so much! Well, trying to make this long story shorter – that same customer from a few years ago just called the other day and asked if I could add on to that piece and they are sending it to me so that I can work on it. I’m getting the bracelet back and can finally take the picture! Okay, now I know that isn’t the best example and pales in comparison to some of the disappointments we face in our lives (my own included) – but, the point is that it all works out in the end. It always does.
Be calm. Be positive. Have patience. Have faith.
~Melissa